With a New Baby on The Way Through Your Surrogacy, Learn a Few Tips to Help You Keep Ahead of The Game!
For parents who have undergone a surrogacy in order to have a child of their own, you may not be initially prepared for all of the time that’s going to be put towards your new baby.
While your surrogate mother was growing the baby, you were able to continue your lives and prepare your home for the new baby. You’ll find out soon enough just how much time and attention your baby needs.
This article will discuss time management and how you can still lead a productive life even with a baby in your life.
According to a study, parents are spending more time with their children than ever. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
Children who spend more time with their parents are typically happier. They can learn from their parent right from wrong. They can emulate them and learn about responsibility and better communication.
However, parents need to be able to step out of the parenting role in order to attend other matters in their life, too.
Even those parents who underwent egg donation for surrogacy in California need to be able to time manage their lives.
Parents who have received their child through surrogacy likely feel that they need to spend more time with their baby than parents who conceived their baby naturally.
They may feel this way because of the nine months that the baby spent growing within the surrogate mother. T
hat’s a method of thinking that parents need to overcome. You should spend the same amount of time with your surrogate baby as one would with a natural baby.
To help yourself manage your time better, follow some of these tips.
#1 – Prioritize Your Tasks
One of the first steps that you need to take is to assess your daily and weekly tasks. Which are actually important and which are just a waste of time?
Those that can be eliminated or automized should be. Then think about your priorities. Do you want to spend more time with your family?
Your infertility may have frightened you that you’d never get to have a family of your own. It’s understandable that you would want to spend time with that family and now you can focus on that dream that has come true.
In that case, see if you can work from home.
You can spend time with your baby during your lunch hour. It also removes the transit to and from work. That may only be minutes for some people but those are treasured minutes that you can spend with your family instead.
To further help yourself prioritize, you should make a list.
What are the things that need to be done immediately? What are the things that can be done throughout the week? And what are the things that are ongoing projects without much of a deadline?
Focus on the immediate tasks and if you do happen to have spare time, then you can fit in the weekly and ongoing tasks.
#2 – Think Ahead and Prepare
If you underwent egg donation to have a baby, then you’re familiar with thinking ahead.
You should take the time to look at your tasks and see how you can plan ahead and prepare for those tasks that will save you time.
For example, if you tend to spend some time getting ready in the morning, you can simplify that process. Before going to bed the night prior, take some time pulling out your outfit and anything else you’ll need.
You might even want to make your lunch beforehand and freeze it in the fridge. Then all you need to do is grab your items and head out the door.
Kids will definitely add an extra layer of “doing” both around the house and also preparation for a new mouth to feed.
You will have to prepare for when and how you will feed the baby, how you will feed yourself (mothers who nurse and have young children often neglect themselves while tending to the needs of their newborns).
So take time to prepare even small tasks such as eating.
#3 – Stay Organized
Undergoing surrogacy likely taught you that you need to be organized.
It requires a lot of paperwork.
Organizing your paperwork and other items should be a skill and practice that you continue to utilize. If you’re wondering how to handle multiple kids, then the secret is organization.
Keep a filing cabinet on hand where you can clearly store needed paperwork and other information, and keep a notepad handy for grocery lists.
Have your kid or kids keep themselves organized, too.
They can keep their school items in a designated drawer, on a table, or even in a room. Clothes should be kept together so that everyone can find what they’re looking for immediately.
Parenting can be a lot easier when your home is organized.
#4 – Multitask
Not everyone can multitask well.
However, there are places where you can boost your productivity due to multitasking. I
f you find yourself waiting for something, then take the time to do a quick cleaning of the area. If you need to know how to handle multiple kids, then you need to know how to multitask.
It’s a skill that should be developed and can be developed.
No doubt your surrogate mother had to multi-task between her appointment, a job she may have had, and the surrogate pregnancy- so have no doubt intended parent, you can do it too!
Another example that you can include in your life is helping with your child’s homework while you cook.
Most of the cooking process is just waiting for things to boil or heat up. That’s a time you can spend going over your child’s homework and offering advice.
#5 – Ask for Help
You likely asked for help to find a surrogate by using our surrogacy agency in Sacramento.
You should continue to ask help in order to tackle some of the tasks in your life.
Your partner can be an excellent help in this regard or hired help as we have seen with other intended parents.
If there’s just too much that you need to do, then have them take care of the surrogate baby for the day.
Sometimes all you need is a single day to take care of the otherwise overwhelming mountain of work ahead of you.
If your partner is just as busy, then reach out to others.
Your surrogate mother may even be willing to help if you’ve maintained a close relationship with her.
She’s a parent herself and understands your struggle all too well. You don’t always find a surrogate just to help with your infertility. You can also find them for a friend and confidant through every step of parenting.
You can also turn to your own parents or friends.
They can either help watch the kids or help you finish up tasks. A room can be painted a lot faster with a lot of hands at work, for example.
#6 – Include the Kids
After you find a surrogate and the surrogate mother gives birth to your baby, you basically have another set of hands that can help you.
Depending on their age, kids can be included in certain tasks to help complete them faster. Painting, for example, can be shared with the whole family. Just make sure you’re prepared to deal with any of the messes.
If you want to exercise more, then have your child join you.
Even if they’re in a stroller, you can use the excuse to push the stroller down the block. Not only does your child present an added weight to work through but it also allows you to spend time with them.
As they grow older, they can also help out in the kitchen, perform chores, and perform other tasks that you were attempting to juggle by yourself. By including the kids, you still get to have family time while completing objectives that can free up more of your time.
Focus on The Family
After undergoing surrogacy in California and having your baby placed in your arms, it can be difficult to want to do anything else.
Tasks can fall by the wayside.
However, these tips can help you manage your time. You’ll be productive and spend time with your family.
If you’re an intended parent and need help finding a surrogate in California, or finding a surrogate who has surrogate-friendly insurance, please contact our surrogacy agency located in the Sacramento area.
We help couples, singles, and parents of all types who struggle with infertility to find a surrogate near them.
If you are an international couple or individual, feel free to contact us here today, and we can also find you a surrogate!